Hideous problem Australia must face up to.(Graham, Queensland Times, 01/03/2021)

“ONLINE PORN KEY ISSUE FOR SCHOOLS WHEN TACKLING SEXUAL ASSAULT ALLEGATIONS” (CHRYSANTHOS, SYDNEY MORNING HERALD, 27/02/2021)

Sexual assaults and rape in Australian schools: Chilling story shows dark problem with porn (Graham, news.com.au, 25/02/2021)

Have you ever gone looking for a problem only to find another one? My wife and I own a home that is leased by an incredible family. However, the family have been having challenges with some pests in the home. They have been hearing some sort of animals running in the walls at night.

Consequently, last night, I found myself in the attic of our house, looking for the source of this strange and stressful sound of animals chasing each other.

As I looked for these mice, shining my torch from side to side in our attic, I found myself staring at a large nest of ants. Ants!?

My immediate thought was, could these be termites? Mice chasing each other in the night is one thing, termites silently and methodically destroying the structure of our home is another.

By investigating one problem, I may very well have uncovered another. One that unless dealt with will lead not just to annoyance but could also lead to the very collapse of our home.

As I reflected on this experience this morning, I thought of the parallels between my conundrum with these pests, and the tragic reality we are facing as a nation and indeed as a globe, the destructive rodents of rape-culture and pornography.

While the world has for years now been hearing the sounds of rape-culture permeating through the walls and halls of the powerful and the elite, we are only now realizing that the very foundations that we are standing on may be being eaten from underneath us.

For too long, it has seemed that every time one turns on the news, there is another story of another politician, religious minister, schoolteacher, celebrity or sports star who has committed sexual assault. Indeed, the plague of sexual assault has been highlighted over the past few weeks in an ever-confronting manner, from accusations against New York Governor, Andrew Cuomo, to revelations of rape within Australia’s very own Federal Parliament House.

And while the world might be able to roll over and go back to sleep listening to the sounds of these mice in the walls, resting somewhat uncomfortably, consoling ourselves with the fact that they are behind the walls and to some degree, “out of sight and out of mind”, there is a shockingly new revelation that should have every Australian outraged at the reality that we have allowed this societal pandemic of sexual abuse and assault to go largely unchecked. Ants have been found in the attic, and it’s time to act.

The revelation we have uncovered is the horrific reality of sexual assault in our school playgrounds, between teenage peers. The reality is that peer to peer sexual assault is rising and rife across Australia’s young people. This isn’t confined to Australia either, studies in the UK and the US show teenage peer to peer sexual assault is rising in by hundreds of percentile! From rapes in the playground to sexual abuse on the school bus and sexual violations online, the world’s young people are rapidly going the way of many of our now disgraced leaders, or could it be that in fact simply only now gaining media attention, as such assaults have been going on for quite some time. It is time to for our nation to say, “enough is enough”.

So, how do we stop this wave of abuse that is literally destroying this next generation, eating away the very structure of our society? We must tackle the root of the problem, the breeding ground for rape-culture, and the breeding ground of this culture is pornography, who’s roots are grounded in a lack of understanding of our identity.

To gain an understanding of how we got here, let me take us back into our history.

Sadly, we are literally reaping what we have sowed. During the sexual revolution of the 60’s and 70’s we planted the seeds of pornography in homes across the globe through magazines such as Playboy and Hustler. Now, with the invention of the smartphone, we have planted trees of abuse in the playgrounds of schools across the globe, and the fruit is rape, paedophilia, sexual abuse and the vile degradation of both men and women.

It is somewhat bitter-sweet that our main-stream media across Australia are finally speaking out about the toxicity of pornography and its direct links with sexual assault. It feels as if it is too little too late, but I thank God that we are finally having this conversation.

For too long we have tolerated and even celebrated the devastating reality of pornography.

 “Liberating”, is a word so often used to defend pornography. “It’s empowering women”, some will argue. Many still would say, “Watching pornography isn’t hurting anyone as it’s not actually real.” And while some may argue such points, the reality is that pornography is hurting people in a very real way.

Pornography is the root of the vast majority of sexual assaults.

This isn’t an opinion, this is truth, and has been the case for decades, as demonstrated by the infamous Ted Bundy, one of the most prolific and ruthless rapists and serial killers in history, he stated that his fantasies were “fuelled” by pornography. That was in the 1970’s, how long does it take us to learn!

So, what can we do to fight pornography, and the sexual assaults that it results in?

  1. Teach people their worth and the worth of their peers. We have an identity crisis on our hands. We are told we are neither male nor female. We are told we aren’t created. We are told we are just evolved masses of cells. We abuse and consume each other because we don’t know our own and each other’s worth. If we can begin to affirm people’s God given identities and worth, we will go a long way to removing the “need” for pornography. One of the reasons we have been able to “accept” pornography lies in the teaching that people are merely evolved animals. As abortionists so often advocate, we are just “clumps of cells”. Yet, each and every individual is a unique and precious child of God. The dignity and worth of human life must be championed. Without this message, we will kill and rape and destroy ourselves and each other as wild animals do. Yet we are more than that, you are more than that, you are a precious created child of God.
  2. Reject the narratives of society that promote pornography. “If it feels good, do it.” “The best way to learn about your sexuality is to explore and experiment”, “Pornography is normal” “As long as you aren’t hurting someone else you can do whatever you want”. The reality is that there are many things that feel good that can kill us and most certainly harm us (think about drinking excessive amounts of alcohol every day or eating a diet of only chocolate etc.).  The reality is that you do not have to explore everything to understand it, you wouldn’t jump into a fire to explore how painful fire is, so why would you jump into bed with a stranger, or indulge in pornography to explore how dangerous and painful it is? And no, it is not ok to do something that is not hurting someone else if it is actually conditioning you to hurt someone else. You can’t plot a terrorist attack and get away with it because it “isn’t hurting anyone yet”, so why do we tolerate fantasizing about rape?
  3. Know that love kills porn. Often when someone is consuming pornography, they are actually asking an underlying question, “Am I loved, am I wanted, am I worth another’s desire?” We were created to be loved and to love. However, pornography can never fulfill this very real need of the human soul. It is a counterfeit to the divine. We need Christ’s love. When you settle in your soul that the creator of your very life loved you so much that He laid down His very own life on a cross to show you His love and desire for you, you will find that pornography loses its hold.

Let’s keep having this conversation friends. The very structures of our society and the very foundations of our families depend on it.

Our kids deserve better and so do you,

Andrew

2 thoughts on “ANTS IN THE ATTIC- WHY WE MUST DEAL WITH THE SOURCE OF RAPE-CULTURE, PORNOGRAPHY AND OUR EXPONENTIAL IDENTITY CRISIS.

  1. Hi Andrew. I appreciate how you have highlighted the seriousness and devastation that porn causes. I agree that it’s a really important issue that needs to be talked about and contributes to abuse and sexual assault. The claim that ‘Pornography is the root of the vast majority of sexual assaults’ is a big one and I would love to see some more evidence to back this. I see you’ve given Ted Bundy as an example, I would love to see what else out there has shown this link. I’m not doubting it is out there, I’m genuinely interested to read it and learn more.
    What I think you’ve missed in this post is the gendered nature of sexual assault and one of the key drivers of sexual assault which is gender inequality. When talking about sexual assault, I feel this needs to be apart of the conversation. I believe leaving this aspect out ignores a significant part of the problem. Please see this report for more information about the gendered nature of sexual assault in Australia and why this is a critical aspect of the conversation. https://www.aihw.gov.au/getmedia/0375553f-0395-46cc-9574-d54c74fa601a/aihw-fdv-5.pdf.aspx?inline=true.
    See this link for more information on the link between gender inequality and violence against women and suggestions for prevention. https://www.vichealth.vic.gov.au/-/media/ResourceCentre/PublicationsandResources/PVAW/Violence-Against-Women-Research-Overview.pdf
    Thanks for the thought-provoking post.

    1. Hi Kate, thanks for this and the links. Can I recommend the book “Lost Boys” by Cindy McGarvie. She cites several studies that show the clear link between pornography and sexual assault amongst school aged children. Indeed just a quick google search brings up multiple studies showing the links, Ted Bundy is just a famous and known “testimony” per sei. Yes gender inequality is a huge factor as well. Thanks again

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