This one is going to be a hard one to write, but I pray an easy one to read.
Today I want to talk to you about the most precious human being on the planet to me, your mother.
I want to give you some advice on how to treat her. I always pray that she would enter glory before me, I know that sounds odd, but I know how much it will hurt me when she is gone, and I don’t ever want her to feel that, should I go before her.
But just incase I go first, and if for any reason before then you want a “manual on your Mum…” here it is. This is how you should treat your Mum. I only ask four things, three if you pay close attention to number 4. Please do these things for your Mum.
- Treat her with respect. Your Mum is the hardest working woman I know. She literally gives up her sleep for you, she gives up her food for you, her time, her energy, even her friendships. She would die for you a thousand times and she always puts you first. She deserves your full admiration, respect and honor. (Biblical bonus- you score a long life when you honor your Mum- Ephesians 6:1-2. Don’t ever talk badly about her or to her, if you have a challenge bring it up with her in love, and know that she will always have your best interest at heart, so work together for solutions when there is conflict. Always let love and respect win out at the end of the day.
- Give her your time. The main way your Mum feels loved is through quality time. It’s easy to write her a message, or make a call to her, or give her a gift- but what she really wants is your time. Give her your time kids. If you ever live away from her, call her every week for no less than an hour, ideally more. In your short years on earth (I’m writing this when you are just about to turn 3 Sean, and when you, Abi, are just 8 months old), she has given you thousands of hours. Give her at bare minimum, an hour a week. If you live close, call her briefly regularly, for long periods of time when you can, and visit regularly too. And when you visit, plan quality time. Don’t answer your phone or texts when with your Mum- sit with her and let her enjoy you, and enjoy her in return. Don’t rush off, sit, stay and talk and listen. You will never regret it, your Mum is a treasure of wisdom and life, if you will take the time to sit with her. If you have kids, get them to do the same for their Grandmother- they’ll be so much better for knowing your Mum.
- Provide for your Mum. Don’t ever let your Mum go without. She will never complain, because she never wants to inconvenience you, so you will have to prod and pry, but find out what she needs and give it to her. I’ve watched your Mum do anything and everything to make sure you have been looked after. Even when we had no money for coloring in books Sean, your Mum hand drew pictures so you could color them in. Never let your Mum go without. Protect her, fight for her, fend for her, make sure she has what she needs and what she wants. Remember, the best fundraising you can do is on your knees, so pray for your Mum’s provision, in every area, also.
- Tell her and show her you love her. She loves you and will tell you and show you all the time. Love her back by doing 1-3.
I love you kids, and I love your Mum. Please be sure to always love her, knowing she first loved you. She’s a picture of Christ, He loves us, so we love Him. Love, because I can tell you with all sincerity and years of observation- she loves you so much.
About the series:
I’m 29 right now, but soon I’ll be 30. 30 sounds so young to some, but to me right now, it’s feels old! It’s a real milestone.
It’s sounds funny to say this but the closer I get to 30 the more I think about what legacy I’ll leave my kids.
To be completely honest, the closer I get to 30, the more I realize I won’t always be here for them, one day I’ll go to heaven and get to be with Jesus face to face, and they’ll have to walk this earth with God in their hearts, the Holy Spirit as their comforter and guide, and Jesus as their example and intercessor, but they won’t have me here. So, for the times they might wonder, what would Dad have to say about this… I’m writing them a blog a day for 30 days. They might not need it now, but if they ever do, I hope it speaks to them.